T H E
F*#! YES
Relationship
C H A L L E N G E
Let go of the relationship you HAD, to make room for the relationship you DESERVE.
3 DAYS
FEBRUARY 21, 22, 23 @ 5PM-7PM PST
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WE ENVISION A
World
"Where every human being deserves a F*#! YES Relationship, and recognizes that through being deeply honest with our desires and fears that we can invite in what we need, to live in a our fullest expression of who we are as people and as a couple.”
LET’S GET REAL ABOUT YOUR
Relationship
1. Do you have lots of “unfinished” arguments or discussions that never really get addressed and just keep piling up?
2. When you have disagreements do you wish you and your partner felt more like teammates instead of against each other?
3. Do you feel like you have given up on some of your hobbies, desires or dreams because you are afraid your partner won’t accept or support you?
4. Do you feel ashamed, embarrassed or afraid to share certain parts of yourself with your partner?
5. Are there certain topics that you generally avoid or feel are too taboo to discuss with your partner?
6. Do you find yourself making compromises or sacrifices just to avoid drama or disagreement?
7. Do you or your partner feel the need to “check up” on each other or peek into their phone because of a lack of trust?
8. Do you feel like there is a lot of untapped potential in your romantic relationships?
9.Does your relationship feel like its secondary to other priorities in you and your partners lives?
10.Does it feel like you two are moving towards two different futures or living in two different worlds…but you don’t really know what to do?
If you answered YES to any of those questions or felt anything other than a F*#! NO then this challenge will be perfect for you.
INGREDIENTS OF A F*#! YES
Relationship?
LOVE
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FULFILLED
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TEAMWORK
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ALIGNMENT
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FREEDOM
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AUTHENTICITY
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HONESTY
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EXPANSIVENESS
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CONNECTION
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COMMMITMENT
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CURIOSITY
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LOVE . FULFILLED . TEAMWORK . ALIGNMENT . FREEDOM . AUTHENTICITY . HONESTY . EXPANSIVENESS . CONNECTION . COMMMITMENT . CURIOSITY .
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✦ ALIGNED Dreams and Values: Both partners have shared goals and values AND an agreement on HOW they wish to grow towards those goals and represent those values together.
⋒ Joyful COMMITMENT: Both partners are genuinely happy with the relationship and feel deeply committed. If they had the chance to choose each other all over again and live the exact relationship they are in they would do it!
◈ Individual & Collective FULFILLMENT: Both partners are fully expressed individually and as a team, supporting each other's personal and shared dreams. None of their dreams are being hidden out of fear for not being accepted.
⊚ TEAMWORK in Problem-Solving: They face challenges together with a “us vs the problem” approach rather than “me vs you”.
≎ Deeply Honest and Open COMMUNICATION: There are no secrets or taboo topics, each partner feels safe to share while feeling accepted in their truth fully.
✽ Positive Life INFLUENCE: The relationship positively impacts different areas of their lives, promoting personal well-being and growth.
WHAT YOU LEARN IN THIS
Challenge
Define your F*#! YES Relationship
Learn what you and your partners F*#! YES Relationship is and feel free to dream again for the kind of relationship that maybe has felt unreachable or know is possible.
Identify the “Reality Gap” and learn how to close it
Identify the “reality gap” between your F*#! YES relationship and the current relationship you have, and gain the tools needed to “bridge the gap” and bring you both closer to your goal.
Creating a TEAM Mindset
Learn how to align you and your partners dreams and values and improve your communication and problem solving skills to move both of you to the relationship you deserve.
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Ready to transform your relationship?
Join the F*#! YES Challenge and give your relationship the upgrade you both deserve!"
THE F*#! NO “AWARDS”
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Let’s talk about the COST of NOT creating a F*#! YES RELATIONSHIP
Win the Endurance Award
Where the only thing you are truly proud of is how long you and your partner have “endured” together.
Staying in Constant “Potential”
Where you reward the relationship for having the “potential” to be what you and your partner want…but never quite experiencing it.
Feeling like you are in a “convenient relationship”
When all dreams of a F*#! YES relationship have been put aside, you can at least lean on the fact that this relationship is just conveniently here.
Groundhogs Day Dilemma
Repeat the same arguments over and over with no end in sight until you’re 80.
Look Good on Paper
Have a relationship that your friends and family celebrate while you and your partner know “the truth”.
Walking on Eggshells Relationship
Stay in a relationship where you both are trying to avoid getting shocked, constantly dancing around each others issues, triggers and insecurities.
Stagnant Pond Predicament
Stop growing or dreaming altogether and simply try to keep everything as same, calm, unexciting and uneventful as possible until one of you subconsciously self sabotages so that you can finally be free from the monotony.
Ready to create a F*#! YES
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Relationship?
UNHEALTHY
RED FLAGS
1. CLOSED COMMUNICATION
Sign: Lack of open dialogue or fear of expressing true feelings.
Real-World Example: Hesitation in bringing up relationship concerns due to fear of negative reactions.
2. LACK OF RESPECT
Sign: Disregarding each other’s feelings, thoughts, or belongings
Real-World Example: Making decisions without considering the partner’s input or feelings.
3. DISTRUST AND INSECURITY
Sign: Constant doubts about commitment and fidelity.
Real-World Example: Frequently checking the partner’s phone due to lack of trust.
4. STIFLED GROWTH
Sign: Feeling held back or unsupported in personal ambitions.
Real-World Example: Discouragement from pursuing personal interests due to the partner's disapproval.
5. LACK OF QUALITY TIME
Sign: Lack of quality time or prioritizing other things over the relationship.
Real-World Example: Consistently prioritizing other activities over spending time with the partner.
6. UNRESOLVED CONFLICTS
Sign: Letting disagreements fester or resorting to hurtful arguments.
Real-World Example: Allowing small arguments to turn into long-term resentment without resolution.
7. MISALIGNED GOALS
Sign: Having conflicting life paths with no effort to find common ground.
Real-World Example: Having different life paths or future plans that are not openly discussed or reconciled.
HEALTHY
GREEN FLAGS
1. OPEN COMMUNICATION
Sign: Frequent, honest, and respectful exchanges.
Real-World Example: Discussing a bad day at work openly, sharing personal insecurities without fear of judgment.
2. MUTUAL RESPECT
Sign: Valuing each other’s opinions, desires, and boundaries.
Real-World Example: Valuing each other's viewpoints during disagreements, listening without interrupting or belittling.
3. TRUST AND SECURITY
Sign: Feeling secure and trusting in each other’s loyalty.
Real-World Example: Feeling at ease when your partner spends time with friends, without the need for constant check-ins.
4. SUPPORTIVE GROWTH
Sign: Encouraging personal growth and celebrating achievements.
Real-World Example: Celebrating each other's career successes or supporting individual hobbies and interests.
5. QUALITY TIME
Sign: Prioritizing spending meaningful time together.
Real-World Example: Setting aside regular time for activities like a weekly date night, irrespective of busy schedules.
6. CONFLICT RESOLUTION
Sign: Addressing disagreements constructively and empathetically.
Real-World Example: Calmly addressing small misunderstandings before they escalate, aiming to understand each other’s views.
7. SHARED GOALS
Sign: Aligning on key life goals and working towards them together.
Real-World Example: Jointly planning future events or financial goals, reflecting a shared vision for the future.
FEBRUARY 21,22,23
5PM-7PM PST
F*#! YES RELATIONSHIP
The
Challange
✺ Day 1
CRAFTING YOUR RELATIONSHIP VISION
This initial phase is all about laying the groundwork. You'll delve into defining the vision for your relationship. It's a time for couples, or individuals, to dream big and articulate what an ideal partnership looks like to them. Whether it's fostering deeper communication, reigniting passion, or building a strong foundation of trust, this day is dedicated to envisioning your ultimate relationship goals.
✺ Day 2
THE FOUNDATIONAL CHECK-IN — ASSESSING 'THE GAP'
Take a deep dive into the present state of your relationship. This foundational check-in is a reality check to gauge where you currently stand versus where you aspire to be – identifying 'The Gap'. It’s a time for honest reflection, understanding discrepancies, and recognizing the nuances of your current relationship dynamics. This process is integral in highlighting the areas that need attention and nurturing.
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BRIDGING ‘THE GAP’ —
CRAFTING AN ACTION PLAN
Where transformation begins. After identifying 'The Gap', you will work on formulating a concrete action plan. This plan is your roadmap to bridging the gap between your current relationship state and your desired future. It involves pragmatic steps, goal-setting, and strategizing ways to overcome obstacles. As well as using our “Couples Compass” tool to maintain your connection over time.
T H E P A T H F O R W A R D
What about AFTER the challenge?
Don’t worry, we don’t expect you to spend these 3 days and go off to create your amazing relationship with no support. Post-challenge, you will be invited to join our 30 DAY F*#! YES Relationship program, designed to provide sustained support and guidance.
This program includes:
✓ 1. BI-WEEKLY ZOOM COACHING
Engage in regular, live coaching sessions to keep your relationship growth on track.
✓ 2. ACCESS TO RESOURCES
Receive a collection of worksheets, tips, and tricks for continuous relationship enhancement.
✓ 3. COMMUNITY SUPPORT
Join a dedicated group for live support, sharing experiences, and building a community with those on a similar journey.
✓ 4. INCLUSIVE RELATIONSHIP TYPES
Our program warmly welcomes all relationship types (ENM, Poly, LGTBQ).
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It’s a great time to create your F*#! YES
Relationship!
ABOUT US
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Our intention
Marco Hansell & Anaya Joy
“ To create a spiritual relationship, life, and thriving world filled with unconditional love that embodies everyone’s inner joy while being grounded in authenticity, integrity and existing in harmonious flow.”
Marco Hansell and Anaya Joy, your co-hosts created this intention in the first month of their relationship and birthed the concept of Freelationship almost 6 years ago. They now live a relationship that is beyond their wildest dreams and they do it with a level of joy and ease that would typically seem impossible in the kind of dynamics and challenges they have faced.
They created a child together and navigate living in a relationship where they have deep honesty about EVERY bit of their thoughts and lives, feel FREE to change their opinions and desires, can choose to live separately, date other people guided only by the rule that they constantly check-in with and collaborate on how their relationship dynamic will continue every single day. They both describe this seemingly non-traditional relationship as the most committed, safe, expansive, exciting and supportive relationship either of them have ever experienced.
All of the lessons, practices and foundations of the Freelationship come from their realtime learnings of developing tools in realtime to solve their relationship issues and live true to their intention. They have broken through many layers of pre-programmed ways of relationship thinking and consider themselves relationship “possibitilitarians” in that they believe in seeing infinite possibilities in relationships, believe that all kinds of relationships, approaches and arrangements are possible, deserve an opportunity to be tried, and none are better or worse than another as long as they follow their intention or that couples harmonious intention.
Some of their combined superpowers are:
✸ Walking container of safety allowing people to go through tough realizations in the most loving way.
✸ Masters of Play that bring creativity and a childlike curiosity to relationship discovery.
✸ Strong intuitive powers for reflection and truth seeking.
✸ Ability to navigate traumatic experiences and transmute them into loving energy.
✸ Loving each other beyond the dynamics of the relationship and instead wishing for each other to be in their INDIVIDUAL highest good…even if that means breaking apart.
✸ Masters of energetics and recognizing stuck emotions.
✸ Systems minds that allow them to view complex relationship dynamics in a simplified fashion.
✸ Radical honesty…especially for the icky conversations most couples take with them to the grave.
✸ Not taking themselves too seriously and oftentimes breaking into fits of making fun of each other during tense times…in a loving way.
✸ Being a great TEAM Mana (Marco and Anaya).
✸ Seeking the TRUE Truth and not just what someone is saying.
Challenge accepted.
TRANSFORM YOUR RELATIONSHIP IN JUST 3 DAYS
FEBRUARY 21, 22, 23 @ 5PM-7PM PST